Many people experience anxiety about making mistakes, often driven by longstanding habits or traditions. The status quo, “this is the way we have done it for years and we have to keep doing it this way” can reinforce the fear of failure. I think what truly troubles us is not just the possibility of failure itself, but the discomfort of admitting to ourselves that something we tried did not work as intended.
““Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.””
Everyone carries a persistent inner voice that whispers doubts, suggesting we are fraudulent in our pursuits. This feeling of shame acts as a barrier to creative expression, stifling our willingness to take risks. When shame is paired with resistance, it can become a significant obstacle, making progress even more difficult.
I think instead of fighting against shame and resistance, the key is to acknowledge these emotions and use them as guidance. For some, resistance signals that they are moving in the right direction. Rather than avoiding uncomfortable feelings, embracing them and proceeding regardless can lead to moments of true growth and innovation. This is where the magic happens.
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If you are easily offended, you are easily manipulated. The real question is: How do I handle what comes at me?
There’s a big difference between being reactive and being responsive. I think reactive means: “He did this to me, so I’m going to react.” And, “It’s not my fault I blew up; he said that.” In this mode, you give away your power. On the otherhand, responsive means: “He did something, I feel it, I process it, I regulate it, and then I choose how to respond.” I think in this mode, you own your emotions, your choices, and your power.
When you learn to respond instead of react, you stop letting others control your state and start leading yourself. If this message resonates with you, I invite you to book a complimentary 30-minute discovery session with me via this link.
How someone treats you reflects their capacity, not your worth. When someone mistreats you or acts unkindly, it’s never truly about you, it’s about them, their state, and where they are in their own growth.
Once you understand that, something shifts. You stop giving others so much power over your emotions, your peace, and your life. You begin to let go. It’s not even about forgiveness anymore, not of them, and not of yourself. It’s about seeing things clearly for what they were. And in that clarity, you find freedom.
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At the Brotherhood for Professional of Color (BPoC), we are an inclusive community where shared experiences spark meaningful and thought-provoking conversations (both in person and online). Think of BPoC as your partner in the room: a space where your voice, ideas, and perspectives matter.
I hope you leave today’s session with a thought or insight that continues to inspire reflection and exploration. Today was an invitation to notice, to stay curious, and to engage with how your international colleagues and neighbours show up every day. Bringing their unique stories, strengths, and ways of being to our shared spaces is gift to the Danish society.
““We must become the change we seek.””
c/o BOLD community
We are all biased, none of us can be 100% neutral. It’s not a bad thing, it’s not a negative, it’s part of our own uniqueness. Obviously we don’t want to be judgemental. It’s always healthy to ask: What do I believe in? And why do I believe it? My mentor calls these beliefs “family heirlooms” – the ideas and messages we inherited from our upbringing. Some of them we want to keep and others we might want to let go. I think this awareness gives us a choice.
Are you afraid of making a mistake?
The status quo often sounds like: “This is the way we’ve always done it, so we have to keep doing it this way.” At its core, this is really about the fear of failure, the fear of having to admit that something didn’t work. Many of us carry a quiet voice that whispers, “You’re a fraud,” but shame is the real creativity killer. When shame and resistance join forces, progress stalls. The key isn’t to fight them, it’s to acknowledge them and use them as your compass. I think when resistance shows up, I know I’m on the right path as that tension tells me I’m about to grow. So, instead of running from it, I lean in because that’s where the magic happens.
I recently heard someone say that no one gets fired for being rational, they get fired for being creative. Does this mean that a rational decision comes with an insurance policy attached, as it’s safe, predictable, and easy to justify. I think that’s why it’s easier to sell to rational decision-makers: you can show them numbers, even if the advice itself isn’t all that good. In a world where we can connect with anyone, anywhere what’s really stopping you from surrounding yourself with people who are interesting, generous, and kind?
““The question is not what you look at, but what you see.””
Where are mistakes being made because people are being too rational?
If your business has the independence to make decisions without endless justification, there’s an enormous opportunity here. Look for the places where your competitors are applying rationality where it doesn’t belong, as that’s exactly where you should experiment with being irrational. You won’t always succeed, but when you do, the impact can be extraordinary because the overuse of numerical measures, mathematical models, and rigid logic in areas that demand intuition, empathy, and creativity is one of the greatest sources of inefficiency in modern business. I think sometimes, the most strategic move is to think less like a spreadsheet, and more like a human.
The seven deadly sins of Roman Catholic theology are pride, greed, lust, envy, gluttony, wrath, and sloth.
Just because you fit, it doesn’t mean that you belong.
Image by Kavit Haria
How do people truly change in sustained and desired ways?
I think by understanding that discomfort is part of the process, not a sign of failure. By building the emotional resilience to manage stress rather than avoid it. And by creating the kind of support systems in both personal and professional relationships, inside and outside of organisations that make growth sustainable. From a coaching perspective, this is where real transformation happens. Change doesn’t start with strategy; it starts with self-awareness. When leaders learn to notice their triggers, manage their stress, and stay curious in the face of uncertainty, they not only grow themselves they make it safer for others to grow too.
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How do people change in sustained and desired ways?
When people say they are looking forward to change or adapting easily, they are often being economical with the truth. Real change, I mean the kind that lasts is rarely comfortable. All learning and growth involve stress because they demand self-control and a willingness to step into uncertainty. Helping others through change can be equally taxing. It carries the weight of responsibility and requires continuous self-regulation, what some call power stress. Are you curious about how coaching can support your growth journey? If so, contact me via email to book a free 30 minute discovery call.
I think in order for a goal to be effective, it must involve change. Everyone wants to grow and scale fast, but in the rush to move forward, we often forget that growth isn’t just about speed or size. Sometimes, the most valuable insights come from slowing down, asking the right questions, and reconnecting with the people who already know your business best, who are your existing customers. Real change doesn’t always mean chasing something new, it can start by listening to what’s already there.
