Being in Denmark is like being the main character in “Alice in Wonderland.” Just like Alice, I’m propelled by curiosity and an insatiable appetite for adventure. Every street, conversation, and cultural nuance here challenges me to think differently, to let go of what I knew and embrace what’s unfolding. Denmark isn’t just a place I live; it’s a landscape of puzzles, paradoxes, and possibilities. Alice has unconventional thinking and the ability to adapt to strange situations which mirrors my independent and unconventional nature.
The definition of wealth
We all trade in three currencies: knowledge, time and money. When we want to gain knowledge, we must invest either time or money, or both. I think of it this way:
“Once you carry your own water, you’ll understand the value of every drop.”
Learning comes at a cost and the value it returns is priceless.
Blushing on Friday
I received the below testimonial from a young man from the Brotherhood for Professionals of Color (BPoC). I am extremely humbled and grateful for the kind words.
““You are an inspiration in your ability to navigate the delicate balance between integrating into Western culture and staying grounded in the core essence of what it means to be a Black man. Your journey reflects both strength and authenticity, showing that embracing one world does not require the erasure of another.””
Economic life lessons
The wealth-building strategy is simple: buy assets at a low price, hold them as they appreciate in value, and then borrow against their increased worth because loans are not taxable. Use the borrowed funds to purchase additional cash-flowing assets. The income from those new assets is then used to repay the loan. Here’s the key: never sell your original investments. Instead, take out a life insurance policy that matches the amount of debt owed. When you pass away, the tax-free insurance payout covers the debt, and your heirs inherit the original assets completely tax-free and debt-free. This is how wealthy individuals build and preserve generational wealth. I recommend you learn this buy low, sell high and never sell your assets strategy.
““A wise man can play the part of a clown, but a clown can’t play the part of a wise man.””
Stay aware
Don’t let someone else’s rudeness disturb your inner peace. Your time and energy are valuable and protecting them is essential. One of the most powerful boundaries you can set is to simply let people be who they are. The more you allow others to live their lives without trying to control or correct them, the more ease and clarity you create in your own. It’s a quiet but radical act of self-respect, one that shields you from unnecessary stress and drama. I think at the end of the day, your true power is not in how others behave, but in how you choose to respond.
Time and energy are valuable resources
I remind myself daily that my true power lies in how I choose to respond. I can’t control how others behave, but I can control where I direct my time and energy. Stressing over rude people or petty situations only drains my power, and if I let that happen too often, I risk never reaching my full potential. Time and energy are the two most valuable resources we have, and how we use them shapes the quality of our lives. I think real strength begins by asking myself on a daily basis: Am I investing in my growth? Am I protecting my peace?
Making wise choices
As a conscious and creative being, I recognise that I have the power and the ability to intentionally shape my life according to my deepest desires. I understand that I will only attract what I am truly focused on. That’s why it’s essential to choose my focus wisely, direct it with purpose, and maintain it consistently. I am patient with the process, yet relentless in my focus. I trust in the unfolding of my vision while remaining committed to my role in bringing it to life. And above all, I choose to enjoy the journey.
Reality check
In my control:
My attitude
My boundaries
My energy
My response
My self-talk
The way I process emotions
The way I speak
The way I treat others
Who I choose to spend my time with
Out of my control
Aging
External events
Other people’s beliefs & behaviours
Other people’s opinion of me
Outcomes
The future
The past
The way people speak to me
The way people treat me
Time
What others say about me
Contributing to the community
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In today’s fast-paced world, giving takes many forms, from financial donations to volunteering one’s time and energy. While both have value, I think there is a key distinction: money is a renewable resource—you can earn, spend, and regain it—whereas time and energy, once given, are irreplaceable. That’s why true acts of service, those requiring personal effort and commitment, often create deeper connections and fulfilment, triggering the release of oxytocin.
New horizons
My father was a proud man, he was kind, considerate, and loving. I would describe him as a true patriarch, a hardworking individual who led by example. He had a gift for storytelling, effortlessly weaving Jamaican proverbs into his words, sharing wisdom, humour, and life lessons with those around him. Now, he rests with my mother and our ancestors.
Thank you, dad.
The funeral (part three)
My father had a deep connection to our ancestors and believed that those who passed before us left something within us, a timeless body of wisdom. In every community, certain individuals are chosen to access this spiritual knowledge. It was only after moving to Denmark that I began to understand the bridge between what the wise have long known and what the young are still striving to learn. There are lessons we have yet to experience, yet they are lessons that those before us have already navigated. My father’s legacy has been left in every life that he ever touched.
The funeral (part two)
““The winds that sometimes take something we love, are the same that bring us something we learn to love. Therefore, we should not cry about something that was taken from us, but, yes, love what we have been given. Because what is really ours is never gone forever.” ”
I ended my tribute with this beautiful and reflective quote from Bob Marley. It speaks to the cyclical nature of life—loss and gain, endings and new beginnings. It encourages gratitude and resilience, reminding us that what truly belongs to us, in essence, never really disappears. It served as a powerful anchor, exploring both loss and the lessons of love that remain.
The funeral
My father had no desire to play the fool, pretending he had all the answers to life's questions. Quite the contrary. So today, I begin with a tribute - an exploration and an exercise in self-reflection. In other words, I want to look back on my relationship with my father throughout his long and complicated life, with all its twists and turns.
A way of life
According to the teachings of the ancient Chinese master Lao-Tzu, the Four Cardinal Virtues offer a path to transcend habits and excuses, guiding you back to your original nature. The more you align your life with these virtues, the less control your ego has over you, allowing you to access the full power of source energy.
The first virtue, reverence for life, emphasises unconditional love and respect for all beings. Natural sincerityencourages authenticity and emotional honesty, embracing the mantra: “This is who I am, and this is how I feel”. Gentleness serves as an umbrella for forgiveness, acceptance, and love, fostering inner peace and harmonious relationships. Finally, supportiveness reflects selfless service to others, offering help without expectation of reward. I think by embodying these virtues, one cultivates a life of balance, compassion, and deeper connection to the world.
““Even after all this time, the sun never says to the earth ‘you owe me.’””
Dedicated to my late father
Language shapes our perceptions, emotions, and interactions, influencing how we see the world and those around us. The words we choose, whether consciously or unconsciously, carry weight. Consider the difference between loneliness and solitude; one evokes isolation, while the other suggests peace and self-reflection. Every word is like a seed, it can grow into a weed that chokes our perspective or a flower that fosters understanding and connection. Hate, whether personal or collective, has never been a path to greatness. It narrows our vision, preventing us from recognising goodness, progress, or possibility. If we seek growth, connection, and impact, our words must plant the right seeds.
The privilege of invisibility
Humans tend to judge others based on the most visible and easiest characteristics to perceive. This behaviour can be traced back to our evolutionary history, as early humans relied on quick assessments of their environment and others for survival. Recognising friend from foe, identifying members of their group, and judging potential threats were crucial for avoiding danger and ensuring the survival of the fittest.
In modern society, these deeply ingrained instincts persist, often manifesting as biases based on skin colour, size, or other physical traits. For me, as a Black person who is 2 meters tall and weighs over 100 kilograms, I stand out, and I don’t have the luxury of getting mad as I am perceived as a threat before I even open my mouth.
This visibility also brings opportunities, for example, standing out makes me more memorable in both professional and social settings, which is advantageous when networking or building connections. My physical presence can naturally command attention, making it easier to step into leadership roles or influence group dynamics. Additionally, visibility amplifies my voice when advocating for important causes or challenging inequalities, as people are more likely to notice and listen. Finally, for those who feel underrepresented, my presence can serve as a source of inspiration, showing that it’s possible to break barriers and thrive despite societal biases.
It’s easier to judge someone based on their skin colour than their skills, character, or beliefs. In today’s world, you can look at someone from 100 meters away and form a judgment about them solely based on their skin colour, long before you know any other aspects of their identity, such as their sexual orientation or religion.
Message to self on my birthday
Be humble and kind, but know your worth.
Be honest - character is a door opener.
Be grateful - luck seeks the thankful.
Be generous - givers often end up with more.
Be courageous - artists believe in their craft.
Be forgiving - no one is perfect.
Be you - because you matter.
No fear
I’m not afraid to be vulnerable, therefore, I follow these three rules:
Do the right thing.
Do your best.
Always show people that you care.
Because until people know you care, they won't care to follow you.
Julefrokost
London baby
10 things that require discipline, not talent:
• Consistent sleep routines
• Eating healthier
• Honesty
• Journaling
• Kindness
• Laughing out loud
• Playing
• Reading
• Saying ‘please and thank you’
• Spending time in nature
• Staying in touch with friends