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Leadership is lonely

Unconscious bias is often shaped by what we have been repeatedly exposed to throughout our lives. Our brains absorb patterns, social norms, and behavioural expectations, then unconsciously use them to make rapid judgments and assumptions. For example, men are often associated with leadership, assertiveness, strength, ambition, and authority. Women, by contrast, are frequently associated with being supportive, emotional, nurturing, sensitive, or accommodating. In practical terms, this creates a familiar pattern: men are more readily perceived as “taking charge,” while women are more readily perceived as “taking care.”

I don’t think that these assumptions are not always conscious or intentional. They are reinforced through culture, media, workplaces, education, and social conditioning over time. The result is that people are often unconsciously redirected toward the patterns and expectations the brain already recognises as familiar. This is one of the reasons unconscious bias can continue to influence hiring, leadership perception, promotions, and everyday workplace interactions, even in environments that believe they are operating objectively.

Let’s meet each other where we are

In the early stages of building anything, whether a business, a team, or a reputation, growth depends on how effectively you engage with people. Expanding your user base or customer base requires more than visibility; it requires openness and a willingness to connect beyond familiar circles.

I am conscious of the influence of groupthink. When surrounded by people who share similar backgrounds or perspectives, it becomes easy to reinforce existing views. For that reason, I actively seek out different perspectives, at times deliberately challenging assumptions to broaden the conversation. Exposure to diverse thinking sharpens judgment, challenges bias, and ultimately leads to better decisions. It is not only about meeting others, but about creating the space to see things differently together.

““I cannot give you a formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure, which is: try to please everybody.””
— Herbert Bayard Swope

Principles for responsibility and restraint

A number of enduring principles offer useful guidance for how we think, decide, and act. Murphy’s Law reminds us that the more we fixate on something going wrong, the more we risk creating the conditions for it to happen. In contrast, Kidlin’s Law emphasises clarity, suggesting that defining a problem precisely goes a long way toward resolving it. Gilbert’s Law reinforces personal accountability, highlighting that when we take on a task, the responsibility for finding the best way forward sits with us. Wisson’s Law points to the long-term value of prioritising knowledge and intelligence, trusting that financial outcomes tend to follow. Finally, Falkland’s Law offers a counter balance, reminding us that not every situation requires a decision, and restraint can often be the most effective choice.

We need a societal rethink

Why are equal opportunities still out of reach?

In many industries, Black professionals continue to face limited access to opportunities, particularly in management and leadership roles. This is often shaped by entrenched perceptions about capability, influenced by systemic bias and institutional barriers. I think the question is about access and perception. When will assumptions about a Black professional’s ability to think critically, lead effectively, and contribute at a strategic level be fully challenged? When will intellectual and moral parity be recognised without hesitation?

For organisations, this requires more than stated intent. It demands a consistent commitment to evaluating talent based on merit, capability, and potential wich is free from bias. We are watching, and progress will be measured not by statements, but by decisions: who is trusted, who is developed, and who is given the opportunity to lead.

International Women's Day 2026

For decades organisations have measured cognitive ability because it was easier to quantify. The next phase of leadership development will require equal attention to awareness, judgement, and interpersonal capability. The leaders who succeed will be those who can combine strategic thinking with human understanding, guiding people through uncertainty while ensuring that insight becomes meaningful action.
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The future is bright

Legislation can regulate behaviour, but it does not automatically shift underlying attitudes or perceptions. When individuals or communities are perceived as “different,” initial reactions are often shaped by uncertainty or suspicion. Without deliberate efforts to build inclusion and opportunity, social distance can increase. When people feel excluded from mainstream pathways, they will seek alternatives. In some cases, those alternatives may include informal or unlawful economies, particularly where legitimate opportunities are limited or difficult to access. While it is often argued that individuals have choices, the practical range of viable options can be significantly constrained by structural factors such as access to education, networks, employment, and social capital.

From my experience growing up in London, the narrative of abundant opportunity does not always reflect lived reality. If organisations and institutions want sustainable integration and social stability, the focus must extend beyond compliance and enforcement to genuine access, participation, and economic mobility.

A rare convergence

The Chinese New Year (welcoming the Year of the Horse) began yesterday, and on the same day millions of people observed the first day of Ramadan on the Islamic calendar. It also marked Ash Wednesday, the start of Lent in the Christian tradition. This rare alignment of cultural and spiritual observances, each rooted in reflection, renewal, discipline, and intention. Highlighting how different communities around the world enter a period of inward focus and fresh beginnings at the same time.

Vital point

Image of Kirsten Klein (Holstebro Kunstmuseum)

Historically, movements such as abolitionism, the suffrage movement, and the Civil Rights movement were not funded by governments. They emerged in opposition to existing systems of power and oppression and were sustained largely through grassroots organising, private donations, and the support of individuals willing to use their resources, social standing, and influence to challenge the status quo. Progress depended on people who were prepared to accept personal risk in order to confront deeply entrenched injustice.

The 3 A's

The three A’s are a gentle way of staying rooted in appreciation and gratitude. First, acknowledge what you already have, rather than focusing on what is missing. Then, truly appreciate it, allowing yourself to feel the fullness of its value. Finally, allow what needs to come next, trusting that when you are present with what is, what is meant for you will follow.
What do you think?

Active questions

6 active questions to ask yourself every day.

  1. Did I do my best to be happy?

  2. Did I do my best to find meaning?

  3. Did I do my best to be fully engaged?

  4. Did I do my best to build positive relationships?

  5. Did I do my best to set clear goals?

  6. Did I do my best to make progress toward goal achievement?

““Our mission in life is to make a positive difference, not to prove how smart we are and not to prove how right we are.” ”
— Peter Drucker

You are in charge

If I need to influence you and you hold the decision-making power, then there is one word that describes my role: salesperson, and there is one word that describes your role: customer. Customers do not have to buy; salespeople have to sell, and influence without authority works the same way. You focus on the other person’s needs, not your own. You do not try to prove how right or how intelligent you are. You recognise that the other person does not have to agree, and you treat them with the respect any good salesperson would offer a customer. You engage with their needs, their priorities, and the difference you can help them create. If you can sell the idea, sell it. If you can change the situation, change it. If you can do neither, take a breath, let it go, and redirect your energy. Do not waste your life on what you cannot change, just invest your time in what you can.

This may seem obvious

Why do organisations reward politics instead of performance?

When leaders question why high performers feel overlooked while politically savvy colleagues advance, the answer often lies in deeper cultural and structural issues. Many organisations unintentionally reward political behaviour because performance is not consistently or objectively measured. When expectations are vague, feedback is inconsistent, or reward criteria shift from one leader to another, people quickly learn that visibility, alliances, and impression-management provide a more predictable route to progression than competence or contribution.

This dynamic does not arise from bad people. It comes from human behaviour in unclear systems. In environments where certainty is low, individuals rely on self-protection, influence, or affiliation to remain safe. Over time, this creates cultures where the ability to “play the game” feels more valuable than the ability to create meaningful results.

The fear of mistakes

Many people experience anxiety about making mistakes, often driven by longstanding habits or traditions. The status quo, “this is the way we have done it for years and we have to keep doing it this way” can reinforce the fear of failure. I think what truly troubles us is not just the possibility of failure itself, but the discomfort of admitting to ourselves that something we tried did not work as intended.

““Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.””
— Brent Brown

We are all biased

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We are all biased, none of us can be 100% neutral. It’s not a bad thing, it’s not a negative, it’s part of our own uniqueness. Obviously we don’t want to be judgemental. It’s always healthy to ask: What do I believe in? And why do I believe it? My mentor calls these beliefs “family heirlooms” – the ideas and messages we inherited from our upbringing. Some of them we want to keep and others we might want to let go. I think this awareness gives us a choice.

Check in - Check out

I recently heard someone say that no one gets fired for being rational, they get fired for being creative. Does this mean that a rational decision comes with an insurance policy attached, as it’s safe, predictable, and easy to justify. I think that’s why it’s easier to sell to rational decision-makers: you can show them numbers, even if the advice itself isn’t all that good. In a world where we can connect with anyone, anywhere what’s really stopping you from surrounding yourself with people who are interesting, generous, and kind?

““The question is not what you look at, but what you see.””
— Henry David Thoreau