Why is this so difficult?

Intersectionality was coined in 1989 by professor Kimberlé Crenshaw to describe how race, class, gender, and other individual characteristics “intersect” with one another and overlap. For example, I am both Black and a man, so the lived experiences of discrimination from my perspective as a Black man is different from those of a Black woman or a white man’s.

““Intersectionality is a metaphor for understanding the ways that multiple forms of inequality or disadvantage sometimes compound themselves and create obstacles that often are not understood among conventional ways of thinking.””
— Kimberlé Crenshaw

The real deal

Many people think vulnerability was a repellent, and I think it’s the world’s greatest magnet as it brings everybody to you. Nowadays, the greatest supply in the world is the opposite of vulnerability - it’s curating our lives on social media, and only showing the best parts of being successful and having picturesque holidays. On the other hand, the things that are in the highest demand are the things that we can relate to in 99% of our lives - the struggles, insecurities, doubts, etc. These are the elements in highest demand yet in lowest supply. When someone shares their struggles it increases oxytocin levels and we feel more connected to them.

““You cannot transmit something you haven’t got.””
— Unknown

You have to choose

I am always trying to understand:
What are people looking for?
Why are things the way they are?
Why is the layout the way it is?
If it is not working on me, why is it working on other people?
What kind of world view would make this communication effective?

““If you are free, you need to free somebody else. If you have some power, then your job is to empower somebody else.””
— Toni Morrison
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The overlap

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In recent months, our focus has been on exploring how a deep understanding of intersectionality can enhance the sense of belonging in the Danish workplace. We've developed a comprehensive framework that emphasises the difference between equality and equity, and we've introduced an identity wheel as a tool to actively support marginalised groups. Our next step is to finalise the framework and begin testing it within focused groups comprising leaders and managers. Our ultimate goal is to enhance decision-making processes and foster more meaningful interpersonal connections.

The tip of the spear

Democracy is being able to speak your mind but with respect and without oppression. I think it's about persuading others through reasoned arguments and maintaining composure is crucial, especially the people in power as they should lead by example. When our government falls short in fostering such an environment, it falls upon us, as citizens, to counteract the polarisation that plagues our society.

““Never hold your head down, never say you can’t, never limit yourself, and never stop believing.””
— Unknown

Speaking about it with humour

The American comedian, Andrew Schulz performs in front of audiences who are completely mixed in every sense, they are properly represented and diverse. Schulz solves the diversity problem in a rather interesting way, not by pretending that touchy subjects like race or gender don't exist but by highlighting the distinctions and taking the "mickey" out of them. Perhaps from a creative point of view this is a better way to incorporate the diversity with humour rather than being politically correct and skipping around the topics. Do you pretend to make people not notice ethnic differences? Are you anxious in the presence of any of those differences, or do you acknowledge them and make light of them?

Change is on its way

Communication comes in both words and deeds, so clear procedures, goals, methods, and deadlines are required. In successful transformations, leaders actively look for ways to obtain clear performance improvements, establish goals in an annual planning system, achieve these objectives, and reward the people involved with recognition, promotions, or financial incentives. Nothing undermines the communication of a change vision more than the behaviour on the part of key players that seems inconsistent with the vision. I think attitude training is just as important as skills training as guilt, political considerations and concerns over short-term results stop people from having honest discussions. It’s not possible to change habits built up over years and in some cases decades after only one workshop.
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““Language isn’t just a means of communication, it’s a reservoir of memory, tradition, and heritage.” ”
— Sinan Antoon
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Humility and sensitivity

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c/o Penn Medicine

I am always going to be misunderstood! 

I have been prepared for character assassination, being marginalised, and pushed to the side when it comes to trying to tell the truth about people whose suffering has been rendered invisible for so long in the mainstream narrative. I’m not claiming to be right, and I have been thinking about it for decades, so I am open to challenges to my findings. Raised by deeply humble parents who instilled in my sisters and myself the values of treating others with respect and humility, and to never ever think you are better than anybody else.

““The reason facts don’t change most people’s opinions is because most people don’t use facts to form their opinions. They use their opinions to form their facts.””
— Neil Strauss

Building a pipeline

The top-performing sales professionals consistently engage in prospecting, recognising the necessity of maintaining a consistently full and active sales funnel. As they view themselves as CEOs of their own lives, income streams, and deal pipelines. I think the key to ensuring flow and momentum within the pipeline lies in continuously filling the top with potential opportunities. By prioritising the influx of prospects, salespeople can mitigate closing challenges and approach sales from a mindset of abundance, refusing to yield control of the sales process to prospects. A full funnel enables smarter selling strategies and empowers sales professionals to navigate negotiations with confidence and resilience.

The pathway to growth

c/o McKinsey & Company

Imagine growing up with the understanding that simply being yourself would be perceived as a problem. Subconsciously, you're constantly met with the message that what you have to offer holds no value. You're left with two options: conform to the existing norms and expectations, or take on the daunting task of building an entirely new framework from scratch. I think this persistent challenge shapes not only your perception of yourself but also your approach to navigating the world around you.

““To make difference in someone’s life, you don’t have to be rich, beautiful, or perfect. You just have to care.” ”
— Burrellism

Stop making excuses

Successful leaders often rely on mentors and coaches to provide guidance, support, and valuable insights, enabling them to navigate challenges and develop their skills effectively. They also demonstrate the ability to address uncomfortable truths with honesty and compassion, which helps to build trust and credibility within their teams. Emotional intelligence is recognised as a critical skill for leaders, as it allows them to be genuine and transparent, thereby inspiring and influencing others positively. In my experience, leaders with strong emotional intelligence are adept at holding themselves and their team members accountable for results without resorting to excuses.

A snippet from a coaching session

Here’s a sneak preview of some of the questions I ask in my leadership development coaching sessions:

1.         What will my team hold me accountable for?
2.         What are the goals I have for my team?
3.         How do they make decisions?
4.         How do they resolve conflicts?
5.         What are my personal goals as a leader?
6.         How will I get results in those areas?

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““Curiosity about life in all of its aspects, I think, is still the secret of great creative people.” ”
— Leo Burnett

I can see clearly now

Your perspective is always limited to the extent of your knowledge. I think by broadening your understanding, you open doors to transforming your mindset. By delving into your true history can empower you, instilling boldness, and self-confidence. Not everything needs a reaction; instead master your emotions by training your mind to stay calm, think, and then act with purpose.

““If you cannot be corrected without being offended, then you will not truly grow in life.””
— Professor Richard Feynman

Understanding change

c/o LinkedIn

Understanding what we can change and what we cannot change in this world creates a wonderful harmony, because when we cannot do anything about it, then we just have to accept it. This is part of our life, and life is very imperfect and I am imperfect, I’m neither good or bad, I’m just a regular human being. And through this method of acceptance we can take giant steps towards a greater realm of happiness.

““God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.””
— The Serenity Prayer

Kindness is not a weakness

In a world where cynicism seems to reign supreme, it's easy to adopt the belief that nobody does anything out of genuine kindness – it's all just a facade masking self-interest. This perspective paints a bleak picture where altruism is a rare commodity and everyone is simply looking out for themselves. Change, if it ever happens, is portrayed as a slow and agonising process, often met with resistance and reluctance. I think in this cynical narrative, the pursuit of money becomes the primary driving force, overshadowing any noble intentions or aspirations for a better world. It's a harsh reality where trust is a luxury and sincerity is viewed with suspicion.

Just an illusion

What is the illusion of objectivity?
In simple terms the “Illusion of objectivity” allows us to believe we are free of biases we recognise in others. For example, imagine you are in a museum looking at a painting with one of your friends, and each of you have a different opinion about what the painting means or how good it is. You might think it's amazing, while your friend thinks it's just okay. Now, imagine there's an art critic who's supposed to judge the painting objectively, meaning they should have no personal biases and just look at the painting for what it is. In reality, even though the art critic tries to be fair, they may still be influenced by their own experiences, preferences, or background. This is called the “Illusion of Objectivity” – the idea that something can be completely unbiased or neutral when, in reality, everyone brings their own perspectives and biases to the table, whether they realise it or not. So, remember even when we try to be objective, it's important to recognise that our opinions are shaped by who we are and what we've experienced.