As leaders, we often forget what it was like to begin. The uncertainty, the fear of making mistakes, and the challenge of navigating unfamiliar ground. This is the “curse of knowledge”: once we have mastered something, it feels so obvious that we assume others must see it the same way. We underestimate how valuable our experience, insights, and guidance actually are. The danger is that we stop teaching, mentoring, or coaching because we believe what we know is “too obvious” to be worth sharing.
We have to remember that what feels simple to us may be transformative for someone else. I think great leadership means remembering the beginner’s perspective and having the humility to meet people where they are.
Looking through different lens
How would the world be worse off if we did not exist?
In leadership coaching, this is a powerful question. Purpose is the competence of what you deliver as a leader. Culture is the intent behind how you lead others. And cause is the wider good you aspire to create through your influence.
Sustainable leadership shows that it’s possible to do well by doing good. Cultural diversity, for example, isn’t just about representation, it’s about fostering inclusiveness and valuing both differences and similarities within teams. Research shows that people, especially younger generations, are more engaged and committed when they believe in a cause-driven purpose. I think this only works when leaders demonstrate authenticity and coherence. Claiming to be “purpose-driven” isn’t enough; it must be visible in the way you lead, the culture you build, and the impact you create.
It's a journey
The best leaders I know are much like the best scientists: they balance two qualities in equal measure, humility to admit what they don’t know, and curiosity to keep seeking new knowledge. That combination is what turns leadership into a journey rather than a destination. Leadership isn’t about certainty, I thnk it’s about courage, openness, and a willingness to evolve.
Change is always within reach
Katleen Vanacker ©
If your team observed you for a week, would they believe you are serious about your goals and theirs? Would they see discipline, focus, and consistency? Or would they see distraction, delay, and lost momentum?
As a leader, you don’t have to tell people what matters to you. Your daily actions already set the tone for the culture, pace, and performance of the team. Lead in a way that makes commitment visible and watch it inspire the same in others.
It's complicated
Transforming entrenched cultural systems takes time and sustained commitment as they do not shift easily or quickly. True value often arises from scarcity; when something becomes widespread, its strategic significance tends to diminish. Leaders must ask: where are the real constraints, and how can we create value within them?
I think one should strive to be the kind of leader whose presence elevates the work, someone whose absence would be deeply felt. Bring emotional intelligence, critical insight, and seasoned judgment to every interaction. This is not about shortcuts; it’s about pursuing meaningful, lasting impact. If you are seeking an accountability or progression partner for your leadership journey, feel free to reach out via email.
More speed less haste
Most of what people are rushing to do isn’t actually urgent. And in today’s fast-moving environment, urgency can feel like the default setting. As a leader, your power lies not in keeping up with everything, but in your ability to slow down and think clearly when everything around you is speeding up. This is where emotional intelligence (EQ) becomes critical.
““You should meditate every day and if you don’t have time, you should meditate more.” ”
The tyranny of urgency
I think the difference between reacting and responding isn’t just about self-control, it’s about self-awareness. The first step is noticing what’s really going on, internally and externally. The second step is pausing long enough to process, and the third is choosing to move forward with intention. Unlike IQ, which is about logic and information processing, EQ is about navigating uncertainty, tension, and human complexity. And while artificial intelligence (AI) is getting faster, cheaper, and smarter, what makes you effective as a leader isn’t how much data you can consume—but how well you connect, adapt, and lead with emotional maturity. That’s the human edge, and it’s more important now than ever.
The power of the pause
I think if you want to grow your potential, you must know yourself: your strengths and weaknesses, your interests and opportunities. You must be able to gauge not only where you have been, but also where you are now. You can’t lead others well if you’re constantly reacting. You can’t create anything meaningful from a place of mental exhaustion. So maybe today, the most radical thing you can do is pause… and ask yourself: What do I actually need right now? Not to please others, not to perform but to feel human again.
What do you think?
Intellectual curiosity is the foundation of wise and adaptive leadership. It's about learning to search for grounded truth, not just what's comfortable or familiar. The best leaders remain open to changing their minds when facts or evidence challenge their prior beliefs. They understand that growth comes not from being right, but from being willing to learn. I think the strongest leaders are lifelong students as well as being lifelong teachers.
““Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” - ”
Service to others
Alina Grubnyak ©
I think leadership is not a spotlight, it’s a platform. Once you have done the work to manage your internal landscape, the next step is using your skills in service of others: your team, your community, and the mission you have committed to.
The best leaders I have seen are those who balance self-mastery with selflessness. They bring their whole selves to the table, not for personal validation, they show up to elevate others. In a world that often rewards noise, grounded leadership remains quiet, consistent, and powerful. What do you think would change if we led from that place more often?
Mastering the mind
Zyanya Citlalli ©
In a world of constant change, uncertainty, and pressure to perform, grounded leadership requires more than just technical skill or vision. It requires deep inner work and a commitment to something bigger than yourself.
I often encourage the leaders I coach to focus on two things:
1. Mastering the mind
2. Serving others
Mastering the mind isn’t just about mental sharpness, it’s about emotional discipline. Leadership will inevitably trigger moments of envy, ego, impatience, or self-doubt. The real challenge is learning to observe those emotions without letting them drive your decisions. I think mastery means developing the inner resilience to choose clarity over chaos, humility over pride, and purpose over impulse. It’s not about perfection, it’s about awareness, regulation, and growth. What do you think?
Managing relationships
I recently came across the concept of relational intelligence, described as the ability to understand, navigate, and effectively manage interpersonal relationships. I think this is how trust is built, inclusion is felt, and where safety becomes the norm rather than the exception.
Perhaps it’s time for leaders to turn to their HR partners and ask the deeper, more human questions:
- Do my team members, especially those with less positional power, feel seen, heard, and valued?
- How do I react when someone gives me hard feedback?
- Have I made space lately for challenge, dissent, or alternative viewpoints?
- Am I showing people I care about who they are, not just what they produce?
These are not just performance questions, they are relational ones, and they might be the key to unlocking safer, stronger teams.
Coaching isn’t magic
Alan Mulally, the legendary former CEO of Ford and Boeing Commercial Airplanes, is often held up as one of the most effective leaders of our time. His approach was grounded in humility, discipline, transparency, and an unwavering commitment to developing people. Marshall Goldsmith, the world-renowned executive coach, once shared a simple but profound lesson he learned from Mulally:
““If you work with great, dedicated, committed leaders who want to keep getting better, your coaching process will ALWAYS work. If you work with leaders who have no real interest in improving, your coaching process will NEVER work.””
This observation cuts through all the noise about methods, credentials, and frameworks. I think at its core, growth requires a genuine desire to change, and no amount of expertise or clever process can make someone evolve if they don’t want to.
Matter of fact
I’m sorry to say it, but education and training alone do not equal intelligence. As a DEIB advocate, I believe that diversity intelligence deserves to sit alongside intellectual intelligence (IQ), emotional intelligence (EQ), and cultural intelligence (CQ). Too often, people misunderstand the differences across and within cultures. To treat all employees fairly, honestly, and with integrity, we need to develop the intelligence to understand the full picture: IQ, EQ, CQ—and the policies, rules, and laws that shape them.
I think both formal leaders and those leading without a title must learn to recognise difference, not as a threat or obstacle, but as a reality of the modern workplace. Being different doesn’t mean being less capable, and it shouldn’t get in the way of performance. I encourage you to reflect, look at your own actions, and examine your biases, because that’s where inclusion starts.
Executive coaching
I see coaching as the ability to further your learning and development by understanding your goals, challenging you, giving you timely feedback, and offering you my support. My executive coaching is a powerful catalyst for your personal and professional growth. As you are already an exceptional performer, my executive coaching will help you uncover blind spots, strengthen your leadership skills, and focus on specific areas to optimise your performance. I will be your trusted partner, guiding you through a process towards a deeper understanding of yourself, sharpening your decision-making abilities, supporting your transition into a new role, and preparing you to take on more responsibilities.
Are you ready to embark on a transformative journey that fosters continuous learning, self-mastery, and the realisation of your career objectives? If so, contact me via email to schedule a free 30 minute discovery meeting.
Face the facts
Organisations navigating change need to slow down, examine their assumptions and avoid snap judgments that can alienate employees. I think building shared psychological safety means ensuring everyone feels heard and considered, not just the loudest or most senior voices. Leaders need to be willing to sit with discomfort, recognising that genuine transformation often challenges their own perspectives. Too often, the emotional burden of change is outsourced to middle managers or HR teams, who are expected to absorb employees’ fears and frustrations without adequate support themselves. While HR typically serves the strategic interests of the organisation, it’s crucial to balance this role with a genuine commitment to employee wellbeing and ethical practices.
Focus your attention
Many people think leadership is about giving orders and always having the answer. I thnk real leadership is about making people feel safe, coaching and inspiring others to grow by holding them accountable. It also means listening with full attention, leading with compassion, and knowing when to take a step back.
It's OK
Emotional intelligence isn’t just about being kind or approachable, it’s about being powerful with people, not over them. And that’s the kind of leadership organisations need if they are serious about meaningful, sustainable transformation. I think this is because in times of transformation, your presence matters as much as your strategy.
Focusing on practical aspects
Leadership today is not just about vision, strategy, or performance metrics, it’s about presence. And not just the kind that shows up in meetings or quarterly reports, but the kind that’s felt by the people around you. Authentic leadership is not about being universally liked, it's about being consistent, grounded, and brave enough to embody values even when they challenge the norm.
I think in transformation contexts where uncertainty is high and morale can be fragile this kind of leadership becomes critical. It stabilises teams without sugarcoating reality. It encourages innovation without glossing over fear, and it helps people stay resilient through the messy, human process of change.
The tension
I think authentic leadership doesn’t always land softly. It can challenge cultures that are resistant to change. It can unsettle environments where vulnerability feels risky. And that’s okay. Emotional intelligence isn’t about being agreeable, it’s about being grounded, intentional, and human. It’s about holding space for discomfort anddriving momentum forward. If you are leading transformation, you should expect a bit of friction as that’s not failure, it’s the work.