self-reflection

Seeing yourself

Reality can be understood like a mirror: there is an image and there is a reflection. You cannot change the reflection directly, but you can change the image that produces it. In my work, I often use this metaphor to describe the relationship between the mind and lived experience. The reflection represents your life, while the image represents your mind. What you consistently think, believe, and attend to is what becomes expressed outwardly.

To change what is reflected, you first need to understand how the mind operates. I think of the human mind as functioning across three dimensions. The first is the conscious level, where we perceive and interpret the world through our senses. The second is the subconscious level, where core beliefs and patterns are shaped by experience, upbringing, and culture. The third is a field of potential, a space of possibility where different outcomes can emerge depending on what we attend to and reinforce.


A deeper dive into self

Sometimes the questions are more important than the answers as they keep curiosity alive. It is difficult to know what you want when you have never had the space to understand who you are. Many people grow up in environments where self-discovery is limited. Others spend years in survival mode, moving through life without the time or safety to ask themselves deeper questions.

A simple place to begin is to take five minutes each day to reflect and ask yourself: What did I enjoy about today? What felt good? Why did it matter to me? Name the experience, explore it, and go into detail. Small daily reflections like this begin to form the building blocks of self-awareness. I think with time, those blocks become the foundation for clarity, confidence, and intentional action.