Confidence doesn’t come from seeking approval, it doesn’t come from likes, compliments or from someone telling you that you are good enough. Confidence develops from action, it comes from proving yourself through your own effort that you are capable. The more you take action for yourself the less you’ll require external validation from others. Confidence is a skill that you can build like a muscle via practice. It’s a good idea to make small, deliberate choices every day.
Learn and unlearn
The way you speak to yourself directly shapes how you feel about yourself, and your life tends to mirror the identity you hold internally. The brain does not clearly distinguish between what is real and what is vividly imagined. When you visualise a calm, confident, and capable version of yourself, I think you are actively reinforcing new neural pathways.
““People want to be around you, not because of what you know or what you have, but because of how you make them feel.””
Confronting your fears
I have learned that when you confront your fears and move towards what you are afraid of, your fears diminish whilst at the same time your self-esteem and self-confidence increases. However, when you avoid the thing you fear, the fear grows, and it will begin to control every aspect of your life. And as your fear increases, your self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-respect diminishes accordingly. Therefore, I think that if you do not do the thing, you fear then fear will control your life. Contact me via e-mail to book coaching, mentoring or 1:1 sparring sessions.