I know many people who are influenced by recency bias which makes allowing the most recent experience, conversation or narrative to shape their perception while losing sight of the bigger picture. When you notice tension in your body, pause. Release it. Ground yourself. Become present. Then choose how you want to show up. This does not mean ignoring or suppressing what you feel. It means recognising that you can influence your emotional state rather than being completely driven by it. Before people hear our words, they often experience our emotional state. Our tone, presence, body language and energy communicate something before we have said very much at all. And sometimes, how we make people feel can have a greater impact than the words we choose.
We are growing together
I think coaching is fundamentally human. While AI can process information, identify patterns, and generate responses, I do not believe it can fully replicate the depth of human connection that effective coaching requires. At its core, coaching is about presence, it is about creating a space where people feel seen, heard, and comfortable enough to think openly and honestly. And the quality of that connection matters.
Great coaching does not come from having all the answers or relying on memory and expertise alone. It comes from being fully present with another person and engaging in a genuine partnership. I do not see coaching as an expert speaking to a learner, I see it as a thinking partnership. My role is not to tell people what to do, but to help intelligent, capable individuals think more clearly, challenge assumptions, and navigate complexity in a way that may be difficult to do alone. Technology will continue to evolve, and the human need for trust, connection, and meaningful conversation will remain.
Standing in the background
What is the unseen pain of being the backbone of other people’s fame?
It is rarely experienced in the spotlight. It lives in the background, where one is described as the beam that holds the structure together. Value becomes defined by reliability and constant presence, and over time, that reliability hardens into expectation. Some of the most essential figures in culture are not those we watch, but those we lean on without noticing. They build the foundations on which others stand, often at the cost of their own visibility, rest, and longevity.
Know your worth
Once you understand the power of your words, you won’t just say anything.
Once you understand the power of your thoughts, you won’t just think anything.
And once you understand the power of your presence, you won’t just be anywhere.