I think that one of the most effective ways to become a more confident speaker is to stop making the presentation about yourself. Many people worry about how they look, whether they sound intelligent, or what the audience is thinking about them. The irony is that the more we focus on ourselves, the more self-conscious we become. Instead, shift your attention to the people in front of you. Ask yourself:
a) How can I help?
b) What value can I provide?
c) What do they need to hear today?
When your focus moves from seeking approval to serving others, your confidence naturally begins to grow. You become more present, you listen more carefully, and your communication becomes more authentic because your attention is on the audience rather than your own performance. The same principle applies in everyday conversations as people who make others feel heard are often perceived as confident, not because they dominate the discussion, but because they are genuinely interested. Curiosity creates connection, and connection builds trust.
Confidence is rarely something we discover overnight. It is something we develop through learning, preparation, and repeated practice. The more we focus on creating value for others, the less we worry about how we are being perceived. In my experience, confidence is not about having all the answers. It is about showing up with the intention to help.
““To be interesting, be genuinely interested.””