How do you stop being affected by everything and everyone?

It begins with learning to stay calm and deliberately rewiring your wellbeing. This is not about disengaging or becoming indifferent. It is about stopping defensive reactions and choosing to respond with calm authority. When you own your response, external chaos loses its power over you. I describe this is emotional resilience as emotional invincibility. It is the ability to maintain a mental state where insults do not penetrate, rejection does not define you, and chaos does not shape your behaviour. Please do not hand strangers the remote control to your emotional state.

I think most people live reactively because whenever someone criticises them, they immediately defend themselves. Resilient leaders do something different, they separate facts from the stories they tell themselves and they respond to facts, not interpretations.

A useful filter is simple: “Can I control this?”
If the answer is no, then worrying about it adds no value. You cannot control someone else’s opinion of you, which makes it irrelevant to your self-worth. You cannot always control the event, but you can always own your response and that is where power lives.