Understand what the other person wants, what is getting in the way, and what they might choose to do next. When the conversation ends, take a moment to notice what you did well. The brain needs evidence of success in order to support change. If your internal dialogue repeats phrases such as “I did this wrong,” “I am awful,” or “I will never be able to do this,” the brain interprets that as a threat and moves into protection mode. It limits your willingness to take risks or try again.

If you reinforce the message “I did this well and I am learning,” the brain supports your growth. I think this is why it is essential to shift attention away from mistakes and toward the transformation that is already underway. Mastery is a path, not a destination. Be patient with yourself, be kind, and appreciate the progress you are making.