The way you fight your habits is often the way you give them power as every habit is a pattern that once served a purpose. It began as a solution to a problem at a specific moment in time. Rather than trying to eliminate anger, approach it with curiosity. Observe it the way you would watch a cloud move across the sky. Notice when it appears, how it feels in your body, and what thoughts accompany it. There is no need to judge it or push it away. Simply observe.

For example, instead of reacting when anger arises in a meeting, pause and silently note, “Anger is present.” Feel the tension in your chest or jaw, notice the thoughts driving the reaction, and allow the moment to pass without acting on it. This awareness creates space between you and the emotion. You can experience anger without being controlled by it. I think over time, the anger tends to visit less often, and when it does, it moves through more quickly, like a brief summer storm.